Self-Forgiveness in Grief

We all need a time for letting go, confessing and receiving absolution from ourselves or a healer. We are human, we make mistakes and we feel guilt, regret or resentment. Those emotions drag us down away from our optimism, hope and creativity. Having an annual ritual of letting go keeps us positive.

Losing Our Men for “Peace”

I wrote this many years ago and I just discovered it as I live in mourning widowhood. My Great Love, Jack Waldenmaier, passed away of cancer on January 7th. It’s as if I wrote it this week. Losing Our Men for “Peace” When our men are killed, We are left with the existential loneliness of […]

Grief ~ The Dark Place in the Middle

Grief – The Place in the Middle Grieving is the place in the middle… The dark place in the cocoon… between the Old Dream and the New Dream. It is entering the darkness of the chrysalis, Where we see no light at the end, Where we can only but take the next single step. Where […]

We Have Crossed the Line

We Have Crossed the Line IMMEDIACY: When we cross the line, we immediately feel it. BUFFETING OF CHANGE: I’m sure you have felt the buffeting of change. Change always means letting go of something in order to accept something else ~ usually something better. We often forget or avoid walking the road of change completely […]

International Women’s Day 2020

We Tell the Stories When the hardships are past. When we return to our town, see and settle, in peace, we tell the stories of pain, awaken our hearts so we weep– soften and weep– inspired by empathy and validation of ordeals. We tell the stories of humanity, and walk into our story… or, the […]

The Daily Show Interviews Heather Carlile

Heather Carlile is a therapist, a master teacher and a writer. Her private practice, focuses on individuals, couples and family counseling. She uses the Enneagram personality styles, helps dropouts to find themselves, companions the grieving and offers mentoring for change in Dallas, TX. She has two comprehensive courses: “ReWriting Your Future” and the “Gift Getaway […]

Complicated Bereavement/Grief and Anger in Children & Youth

    Thank you to the Denton ISD for hiring me to present one of the topics I offered at the last TCA School Counselors Conference in Galveston. And thank you, also, to my two interns, EJ Ijeoma Agada who is finishing her UNT degree in Wellness Promotion and my newest LPC Intern, Kelly King, […]

What to Do When Children are Angry – It’s Grief and Loss

As with most of us, anger begins with frustration…with  saying, “No!” We care about something, we want something…we don’t want something. COMPLICATED BEREAVEMENT: Most of the children brought to me for help with too much anger are stuck in grief. We call this Complicated Bereavement or an inability to let go of  something in the […]