Self-Forgiveness in Grief

We all need a time for letting go, confessing and receiving absolution from ourselves or a healer. We are human, we make mistakes and we feel guilt, regret or resentment. Those emotions drag us down away from our optimism, hope and creativity. Having an annual ritual of letting go keeps us positive.

Reverence for Time

Reverence for Time The tender flames of passion lick the soft and infinite folds of my soul fueling outrage that neighboring beings blithely deny reverence for time. A wasp threatening the tide… the purity of life pouring, shining, roaring, thundering beauty and order. So many blind to the power tamed to the word and the […]

Hardships & Resilience: Life’s Great Teachers

Hardships & Resilience: Life’s Great Teachers PURPOSE AND MISSION: Almost all of us agree that the purpose of life on Earth is growth and service. Yet, many of us become confused about understanding how our uniqueness and our personal journey through life connect with a clear sense of purpose. One element which can add to […]

Social Evolution ~ The Cause Reveals the Solution

My reply to Wynton Marsalis’ public statement from June 6, 2020. This is my open letter to Wynton Marsalis. His commitment and clarity warrant respect. He has done his part through this articulate observation and through his creativity, art and music. And, as a writer, this is my part, my responsibility is to reply sincerely […]

We Have Crossed the Line

We Have Crossed the Line IMMEDIACY: When we cross the line, we immediately feel it. BUFFETING OF CHANGE: I’m sure you have felt the buffeting of change. Change always means letting go of something in order to accept something else ~ usually something better. We often forget or avoid walking the road of change completely […]

Resolutions? Revolt? Renew?

It’s New Year’s Eve of 2020. DEDICATION: Yes, many will celebrate:  ~ Toast joyfully with bubbly  ~ Kiss their mates  ~ Bathe in the showers of fireworks glitter. And, they also think about making the next year better. RESOLUTIONS: They Resolve to  ~ Do the sacred release ceremonies letting go of the negative.  ~ Re-image […]

Nurturing Our Humanity

Riane Eisler and Douglas Fry have provided us with a description of the world cultures built on goodness rather than conflict in their book, “Nurturing Our Humanity: How Domination and Partnership Shape Our Brains, Lives and Future.” I received my pre-publishing order in September and it ‘follows me around the house.’ This is my favorite […]

International Womens Day Dream – Equals with Our Men

Friday, March 8, 2019, is International Womens Day. Yesterday, I wrote this dream for us: EQUALS WITH OUR MEN If I were a woman who came from a time when we were equals with our men, and what we created was sublime, I would pause, aghast, and look again. What has happened? How can this […]

My New Website for Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling

Welcome to my New Website for both Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling: heathercarlile.com We’re still working on it, but it’s already packed with lots of useful information about what makes a marriage successful and how individuals can design healthy  lifestyles. As always, I’m happy to chat with you by phone about any of your concerns. […]