Newest Resources for Stress Management

IMG_5676My talk for the Fourth Annual Compassion Fatigue Symposium today is

Are You On Fire? or Are You Burning Out?

Here are my handouts, links and references. I hope they benefit others.

Heather’s Slides and Articles

Your Enneagram Personality Style


YOU TUBE VIDEOMake Stress Your Friend:

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Heather’s Handout with Ways to Locate Her Resources

The fabulous Dr. Kelly McGonigal wrote “The Willpower Instinct: How Self-control Works, Why It Matters and What You Can Do to Get More of It.” You can also watch her TED Talk on how stress doesn’t need to be destructive…in essence, all we need to do is have a specific type of positive outlook.


The Tend-and-Befriend idea was originally developed by Dr. Shelley E. Taylor


The Nine Habits of a Healthy Lifestyle: for free Vitality Compass and Happiness Compass.  Link to Dan Buettner’s talk:


Mind Body Skills: Defense Centers of Excellence for Psychological Health & Traumatic Brain Injury skills for regulating the autonomic nervous system.pdf

TED Talks –


Learn from my more than 60 free You Tube Talks at

We now have the results of new research: the Fight, Flight or Freeze response is more typical for men. For women, see Dr. Shelly E. Taylor’s book called “The Tending Instinct.” She shows how women respond to stress or threats with the drive to tend and befriend–typically their children and female friends.

There is also the “Fawn” response:

“A fourth type of triggered response can be seen in many codependents.(Codependency is defined here as the inability to express rights, needs and boundaries in relationship; it is a disorder of assertiveness that causes the individual to attract and accept exploitation, abuse and/or neglect.) I have named it the fawn response…the fourth ‘f’ in the fight/flight/freeze/fawn repertoire of instinctive responses to trauma. Fawn, according to Webster’s, means: “to act servilely; cringe and flatter,” and I believe it is this response that is at the core of many codependents’ behavior. The trauma-based codependent learns to fawn very early in life in a process that might look something like this: as a toddler, she learns quickly that protesting abuse leads to even more frightening parental retaliation, and so she relinquishes the fight response, deleting “no” from her vocabulary and never develops the language skills of healthy assertiveness.”   -Pete Walker

Stress List This is ‘the go-to’ SRRS – The Holmes and Rahe Life Changes Stress Rating Scale.

Here is a quote from Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s talk:

“The compassionate heart that finds joy and meaning in connecting with others, and yes, your pounding physical heart, working so hard to give you strength and energy, and when you choose to view stress in this way, you’re not just getting better at stress, you’re actually making a pretty profound statement. You’re saying that you can trust yourself to handle life’s challenges, and you’re remembering that you don’t have to face them alone.

People who experienced a lot of stress but did not view stress as harmful were no more likely to die. In fact, they had the lowest risk of dying of anyone in the study, including people who had relatively little stress.”

Congratulations to coordinator, Sharyn Fein, for a beautiful and meaningful symposium. Here is today’s group in the Nia movement class:




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