International Women’s Day 2020

We Tell the Stories When the hardships are past. When we return to our town, see and settle, in peace, we tell the stories of pain, awaken our hearts so we weep– soften and weep– inspired by empathy and validation of ordeals. We tell the stories of humanity, and walk into our story… or, the […]

The Connection Between Stress and Disease

MIND & BODY ~ INSEPARABLE: Here, I share a brilliant and practical lecture by one of our most articulate pioneers, Dr. Gabor Maté on The Connection Between Stress and Disease. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajo3xkhTbfo This lecture was posted one week ago on August 15, 2019! I have the good fortune to be viewer number 9,163 and to give […]

Complicated Bereavement/Grief and Anger in Children & Youth

    Thank you to the Denton ISD for hiring me to present one of the topics I offered at the last TCA School Counselors Conference in Galveston. And thank you, also, to my two interns, EJ Ijeoma Agada who is finishing her UNT degree in Wellness Promotion and my newest LPC Intern, Kelly King, […]

The No. 1 Cause of a Breakup or Divorce

MOST DON’T KNOW: I often ask couples, when they are seeing me for a session, What do you think is the No. 1 Cause of a Breakup or Divorce? Sometimes they get close but this is not the obvious source of difficulties…wondering if it’s money, sex, affairs, violence, parenting, in-laws, addiction, etc.? Nope. Yes it […]

Research on Couples Counseling

New research shows that, when couples are seriously considering separation or divorce, doing the work on their relationship through counseling can help most. After 5 years and sincerely focusing on improving their relationship, only 12% actually get a divorce. And, 75% of the couples are now happy or very happy. One of my favorite things […]

What to Do When Children are Angry – It’s Grief and Loss

As with most of us, anger begins with frustration…with  saying, “No!” We care about something, we want something…we don’t want something. COMPLICATED BEREAVEMENT: Most of the children brought to me for help with too much anger are stuck in grief. We call this Complicated Bereavement or an inability to let go of  something in the […]

My Heartfelt Message to Teenagers: Seek & Explore

Adolescence, the newest research shows, is from 13 to 26+. The first Adulthood begins between 28 and 30. A mother of babies ages 1 and 3 called me this week for marriage counseling. She’s 23. Her husband, 24, called me today to cancel, he refuses – he’s not ready. They’ve been together 7 years, he’s […]

My New Website for Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling

Welcome to my New Website for both Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling: heathercarlile.com We’re still working on it, but it’s already packed with lots of useful information about what makes a marriage successful and how individuals can design healthy  lifestyles. As always, I’m happy to chat with you by phone about any of your concerns. […]