Childhood Heroes – Live! (audio)

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Childhood Heroes: The Paradox of Role Models – Audio
Heather Carlile Live in the Classroom – Part 1 and Part 2
Exposing the Gifts & Curses We Carry from our Childhood Heroes
by Heather Carlile, MA, LPC

HEATHER CARLILE LIVE: This two-CD set is a companion to Heather Carlile’s Childhood Heroes Guide on the paradoxes of role models. When we recall the role model, game or play pattern we identified with in childhood, we see the strengths we developed but, also, they expose the qualities we missed. We are then no longer held to an unconscious life script based on the childhood myth.

Dear Friends,

Most of us love teaching children with stories through reading aloud, making up tales, watching tv together, talking about movies, You Tube, video games or recounting anecdotes of our own lives. It is my hope that this course will show you how to use characters and stories of all kinds to influence the children in your world through wisdom about people, talents, troubles, relationships and lifestyles. You will be able to choose stories that strengthen character, self-esteem, empathy, persistence and excellence. May this knowledge be an inspiration to you and a blessing to the next generation.

My very best wishes,
Heather

A HERO MIRRORS YOU: This recording enables you to experience Heather’s personal mentoring in the classroom. Once you can see the ways you are like your hero, those talents are strengthened. And, even more importantly, you can also see how you want to develop the abilities which that character lacked. For example, a superhero tackles the tough problems but doesn’t teach a good example of a great home life or balanced lifestyle. When you can see how a hero mirrors your patterning, you can go on the adventure of adding what’s missing: growing relationships, communication, etc.

PERSONAL INTERACTION: This recording enables you to experience Heather’s personal mentoring in the classroom. She takes you through identifying each person’s story or character and how they inspired or assisted them as children. Then you can hear how the individuals discover that their most cherished heroes and heroines also hindered them with invisible biases.

1. MULTIPLE ROLE MODELS: Heather introduces us to the roles we play in our lives and the patterns of the human lifespan. The more familiar we are with our roles, the more graceful we become in wearing them in beneficial ways. Heather teaches about the distinction between personal archetypes or roles and the archetypal stages of The Hero’s Journey.

2. FOUR UNIVERSAL ROLES: Each of us have about ten to twenty ‘hats’ or roles in life. Everyone has the first four classic developmental roles or archetypal abilities: many are familiar with the shadows which are known as the Orphan, Victim, Betrayer and Saboteur. These stages help us learn emotional intelligence, self-esteem, character, and self-discipline. Heather also points at other universal elements in the lifespan such as those found in the twelve stages of the Hero’s Journey as well as the kinds of social, national and generational patterns we experience.

3. PERSONAL EXAMPLES: Ms. Carlile calls our first personal pattern The Fairy Tale Archetype. Not all childhood role models are inspired by fairy tales. Each child is attracted to a role model in his or her own unique way. It may come in the form of play much like the characters Tom Sawyer or Huckleberry Finn even though the child didn’t encounter that story. The Childhood Myth may be inspired by a cartoon, comic book, board game, movie or video game. Listen as she shares her own three early role models and uses them as examples in her life to illustrate the benefits and drawbacks of each.

4. A DOZEN OR MORE PERSONAL ROLES: Heather facilitates one member of the class in naming twelve of her personal roles. They discuss how some of the roles are in conflict with each other and how others are under-developed. Naming your personal roles in life can expand your confidence and how you use your abilities; it can also help resolve confusion. Heather facilitates The Power of Naming with her private practice clients.

5. CLASS FAIRY TALES: Members of the class share the personal Fairy Tale, heroine, game or Childhood Role Model each has identified. Ms. Carlile asks how these stories and characters became patterns for life. The Little Engine that Could who helped one person pull through a divorce; Cinderella taught one woman to believe that good triumphs over evil. There is discussion on how various stories affect our lives and our children’s futures.

The class is concluded on the next CD with Part 2.

Childhood Heroes: The Paradox of Role Models 2 of 2 — Heather Carlile Live in the Classroom
Exposing the Gifts & Curses We Carry from our Childhood Role Models
by Heather Carlile, MA, LPC

BLANK SPOTS, TOO: Through years of working with clients in my private practice, I have discovered various methods for helping people quickly and deeply. When you examine the personalities and lifestyles of your favorite role models through your early developmental years, you will find a surprisingly accurate picture of your aspirations to be a good person and how that has given you strengths. But, if you consider the full panoply of human abilities and activities portrayed by your favorite heroes, stories or patterns of play, you will also see some blank spots and the ineffectual examples inherent in those heroes, tales or activities. We learn by example of what is conveyed and, also, what is NOT conveyed.

PERSONAL INTERACTION: This recording enables you to experience Heather’s personal mentoring in the classroom. She takes you through identifying each person’s story or character and how they inspired or assisted them as children. Then you can hear how the individuals discover that their most cherished heroes and heroines also hindered them with invisible biases.

1. CLASSIC HEROES: Examples of how individuals lived a life script of Fairy Tale role models: Robinson Crusoe taught one person the creative ability to make something out of nothing. The Little Engine that Could, taught persistence, The Ugly Duckling taught about growing up beautiful, Beauty and the Beast, Pollyanna, Flash Gordon all gave special abilities.

2. A PARADOX: Some individuals have a script which they invent themselves rather than identifying with the character in a story. Here one woman shares how she created her own imaginary escape world to avoid her parents’ arguments and how that fantasy world continues to be a solace in stressful times but has also become a detriment..

3. LIGHT AND SHADOW: Heather mentors the class through the tasks and exercises in the Study Guide to find the light and the shadow in the role model and/or the story. She uses several examples such as Superman (which is illustrated in the Study Guide). Heather recommends writing a thank you letter to your hero or heroine. This exercise is meant to help you be clear about the talents you have gained by deciding to live like your hero. The strengths of the role model have become a part of your character.

4. CURRENT EVIDENCE: Heather asks, “How does your life reflect how this expands you and blocks you?” Class members locate the life parallels and relate the insights discovered through this study. For example, one woman says, “I realized in this meeting this morning why I am like I am: I’m considered a softie…” “I feel it’s my crutch.”

5. YOU ARE MORE THAN A FAIRY TALE OR THE HERO YOU ADMIRED: The truth of you is way more than this story. What did you gain and what regrets do you have? How do Hansel and Gretel affect marriages? How movies affect us and our children.

6. USE YOUR ROLE MODEL: Move more into who you are so that your childhood stories or play patterns…your Fairy Tale Archetype doesn’t determine too much of what you do without your permission or perception. One participant from this class said, “I got taller this morning.”

PREPARING OUR CHILDREN: Through learning how our own childhood influences affected our life scripts, we may also learn how to select recreation, television, books and movies to school our children. Even when there are parts of the story which are negative, we can help ensure their self-esteem, character and success with abilities in all aspects of a good life: self-confidence, motivation, intimacy and competency. Heroes and heroines can be our source of teaching greatness and happiness.

…you can hear how the individuals discover that their most cherished heroes and heroines also hindered them with invisible biases…
And, thus, Heather helps you choose the best stories, television, movies and games for your children.

Dear Friends,

Thank you for listening.

If you want the Handbook for yourself or to mentor or coach others, you can order my Childhood Heroes Guide. It is available as a download.

I am gathering examples of Childhood Role Models. Each generation has new ones! Please feel free to send me your discoveries.

My very best wishes,
Heather

See the companion mentoring video at: youtube.com/heathercarlile

Produced by Jack Waldenmaier
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