When Couples Counseling Isn’t Enough

WHEN SKILLS DON’T SOLVE THE CONFLICT: What helps us make progress when couples counseling isn’t enough? Many of my clients come to my private practice office when they are in conflict and want to find their way back to happiness, trust and intimacy. But, after I work with them on their problem-solving abilities, communication, gender […]

International Women’s Day

Judy Chicago was 75 last year. Her historical work, The Dinner Party, has inspired my reverence and my devotion to equality for men and women for over 20 years. This year I took action. I researched more and now I have something forming in my goals about facilitating a women’s group aided by this monumental […]

Relationship Tips for Parents and Families

I created this presentation on Family Relationships in response to a special request I received via email. I’ll share it anonymously here because I was so honored by the interest in my work:  Dear Ms. Carlile  I am a Family Counseling, MA student and have seen almost all of your videos on YouTube.  I have […]

Relationship Tune-Ups

Couples often return for a few sessions after time and events have changed things. For example: after the first one-and-a-half years of passion after a baby is born after stressful changes or events have been resolved after about a seven year cycle after a move, a job change, an illness, etc. I will hear from […]

Heather’s CEU Workshops

Heather’s CEU Workshops* Third Friday of Every Month NEXT: Friday, June 17, 2016, 1:30 – 4:30 pm My Best Methods and Exercises for Couples Pre-Register Online: $60 (or $70 at the door) Location: Stoney Hollow Estates, Plano, TX Call for Directions: 214-636-5889 I like to contribute to our community’s collaboration by fostering collegial connections.  

“The Three Y’s” Make Happy Marriage Communication

The Three Y’s: Yes ~ You ~ You’re Y – YES, you have my attention. (LISTEN) Y – YOU think ____? Yes? (MIRROR & CHECK) Y – YOU’RE wanting _____. Yes? (UNDERSTAND & CHECK) COMMUNICATION: When people call me for Marriage Counseling, they usually really want to be married to each other but something needs […]

Marriages and Mothers

CELEBRATING WOMEN AS MOTHERS: We celebrate mothers today. Families, mothers, husbands and children celebrate their own way. It’s one of those universal moments where we enter ritual space – stop time to pay attention to something we respect or treasure…something I think of as being on the continuum of caring which is love. MARRIAGE BEFORE […]