Mentoring a Generation by Heather Carlile, MA, LPC-S MENTORING MODULES 1. PURPOSE: Mentoring a Generation for Mission Building Blocks of a Healthy Life Making a Difference. 2. COUPLES: Mentoring a Generation for Marriage Deep Friendship Romantic Intimacy. 3. FAMILY: Mentoring a Generation for Parenting Identify the OuchRage: Counterwill and Crisis Commitment to Meaning. 4. HARDSHIPS: […]

Designer Marriage – Mentoring Couples Who Care

Couples Communication The first exercises I give couples are these on communication. These self-assessments always help us notice what we are missing. Table of Contents Part Two: Communication Men and Women Really are from Different Planets 7 Bunny Ya’But and Rabbit Ya’But 8 Listening Self-Assessment Quiz 10 Expert Speaking Abilities Quiz 14 Common Sense Communication 18 […]

Part III. Making Sacred the Cycle

Making Sacred the Cycle Nature’s grand patterns follow the sacred cycle. The movement of breath: In, suspend, out. The waves tumble in. The foam pauses, motion held… And the water slides back into the ocean. The cycle of the seasons, heavens and generations Inspire wonder, anticipation and ritual recognizing that order. With watching millennia, decades […]

Part II. Hunger for the Light

Hunger for the Light What quickens the hunger for the light again? The recipe for love of life has many myriad layers: When Earth becomes home and Nature awakens awe. Our peoples connect cognition with caring. Respect for all life lies at the foundation of belief… …when suffering is unnatural and reverence overrides ignorance, when […]

Part I. We Lost Our Way – Poetry that Came this Week

We Lost Our Way   The suffering came on slowly, Imperceptibly to most. Siblings squabbling. Tribes at war. Until every continent was dirty. The dirtiness began with what was named clean. Hidden in the selfishness of “This is ours, not yours.” “This is our way, not yours,” names “yours” wrong. If something is named clean, […]

Relationship and Marriage Success Class

2016 CEU Classes – Every 3rd Friday starting in June with Heather Carlile THREE Credit Hours for LPC and LMFT $60 ($70 at the door) Friday, June 17, 2016 from 1:30 PM to 4:30 PM. TEACHING WHAT I SEE AND DO: This year my goal is to share my best with you and my colleagues. I’ve […]

New CEU Class: My Best Methods for Couples

SAVE THE DATE: June 17 1:30pm – 4:30pm with Heather Carlile, MA, LPC-S THREE Credit Hours for LPC and LMFT $60 ($70 at the door) To register, go to: My Best Methods and Exercises for Couples: Four Languages for the Intimate Bond, Men are Easy…Women are Complicated, Poisons and Antidotes, Simple and Advanced Genograms, […]

OuchRage: Complicated Grief and Trauma

COMPREHENSIVE VIEW The LifeStyle Building Building Blocks Model is my synthesis of what research shows are the trusted elements of a healthy and happy life. Over many years, I devoted myself to researching and building a model which would illustrate all elements for our internal abilities and the dimensions of daily life so that there are […]

Fighting – Don’t Waste Your Good Mind

FIGHTING AND THE UNDEVELOPED MIND (HONORING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH): Part of my mission is to help stop fighting. Verbal or physical fighting is something that decent people know how to calm and derail in small children. Then, starting in childhood, we refuse to waste our time and intelligence in conflict. It feels bad. It […]

The Best Couples are Equally Smart: 27 Types of Intelligence

What  happens when a couple experiences irritation because of intelligence mis-match? In Marriage Counseling, I feel responsible to ensure that a couple can respect each other as equals. So, even when our talents and intelligences don’t completely match, if we understand how our differences benefit the marriage, we can treasure our spouse or mate for […]