Grief ~ The Dark Place in the Middle

Grief – The Place in the Middle Grieving is the place in the middle… The dark place in the cocoon… between the Old Dream and the New Dream. It is entering the darkness of the chrysalis, Where we see no light at the end, Where we can only but take the next single step. Where […]

We Have Crossed the Line

We Have Crossed the Line IMMEDIACY: When we cross the line, we immediately feel it. BUFFETING OF CHANGE: I’m sure you have felt the buffeting of change. Change always means letting go of something in order to accept something else ~ usually something better. We often forget or avoid walking the road of change completely […]

International Women’s Day 2020

We Tell the Stories When the hardships are past. When we return to our town, see and settle, in peace, we tell the stories of pain, awaken our hearts so we weep– soften and weep– inspired by empathy and validation of ordeals. We tell the stories of humanity, and walk into our story… or, the […]

The Connection Between Stress and Disease

MIND & BODY ~ INSEPARABLE: Here, I share a brilliant and practical lecture by one of our most articulate pioneers, Dr. Gabor Maté on The Connection Between Stress and Disease. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajo3xkhTbfo This lecture was posted one week ago on August 15, 2019! I have the good fortune to be viewer number 9,163 and to give […]

Complicated Bereavement/Grief and Anger in Children & Youth

    Thank you to the Denton ISD for hiring me to present one of the topics I offered at the last TCA School Counselors Conference in Galveston. And thank you, also, to my two interns, EJ Ijeoma Agada who is finishing her UNT degree in Wellness Promotion and my newest LPC Intern, Kelly King, […]

TONIGHT’S LIVE BROADCAST: My Passion Locator

Tonight the topic for my LIVE Q&A BROADCAST is my Passion Locator. I’ll talk about why I wrote it and how it works. This is for those times in our lives when we are experiencing discontent and can’t figure out what we want to be, have or do. It’s a creative place of possibilities and […]

What to Do When Children are Angry – It’s Grief and Loss

As with most of us, anger begins with frustration…with  saying, “No!” We care about something, we want something…we don’t want something. COMPLICATED BEREAVEMENT: Most of the children brought to me for help with too much anger are stuck in grief. We call this Complicated Bereavement or an inability to let go of  something in the […]

My Heartfelt Message to Teenagers: Seek & Explore

Adolescence, the newest research shows, is from 13 to 26+. The first Adulthood begins between 28 and 30. A mother of babies ages 1 and 3 called me this week for marriage counseling. She’s 23. Her husband, 24, called me today to cancel, he refuses – he’s not ready. They’ve been together 7 years, he’s […]

My New Website for Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling

Welcome to my New Website for both Marriage Counseling and Individual Counseling: heathercarlile.com We’re still working on it, but it’s already packed with lots of useful information about what makes a marriage successful and how individuals can design healthy  lifestyles. As always, I’m happy to chat with you by phone about any of your concerns. […]