“The Three Y’s” Make Happy Marriage Communication

The Three Y’s: Yes ~ You ~ You’re Y – YES, you have my attention. (LISTEN) Y – YOU think ____? Yes? (MIRROR & CHECK) Y – YOU’RE wanting _____. Yes? (UNDERSTAND & CHECK) COMMUNICATION: When people call me for Marriage Counseling, they usually really want to be married to each other but something needs […]

Marriages and Mothers

CELEBRATING WOMEN AS MOTHERS: We celebrate mothers today. Families, mothers, husbands and children celebrate their own way. It’s one of those universal moments where we enter ritual space – stop time to pay attention to something we respect or treasure…something I think of as being on the continuum of caring which is love. MARRIAGE BEFORE […]

Sometimes “An Unsuitable” Comes Along

“The Unsuitable”  Love Awakened by an Unsuitable Suitor   What is it Teaching You?  We look through the fog of the old habits and take stock of who we want to be now. -Heather Carlile, MA, LPC  WHEN IS IT GOOD ENOUGH? As a Marriage and Relationship Counselor, sometimes clients come to me with an agonizing […]

My Most Requested Help as a Marriage Counselor

Most couples come for marriage counseling and they tell me that they have communication problems. I ask each of them: “If we can solve the conflict, do you want to be married to this person?” When each of them say’s “Yes,” my reply is: “Then we can handle this easily.” But, if all it took […]

Newest Resources for Stress Management

My talk for the Fourth Annual Compassion Fatigue Symposium today is Are You On Fire? or Are You Burning Out? Here are my handouts, links and references. I hope they benefit others. Heather’s Slides and Articles https://heathercarlile.com/pdf/HeatherCarlile-OnFire-Slides.pdf Your Enneagram Personality Style DO THE QUIZ: https://heathercarlile.com/enneagram-introduction/enneagram-personalities/ YOU TUBE VIDEO: Make Stress Your Friend: http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend The fabulous Dr. Kelly […]

Presenting for Compassion Fatigue Symposium

I’m thrilled that I have been invited to be one of the presenters at The Third Annual Compassion Fatigue Symposium. Sharyn Fein, Marketing Manager and Staffing Manager of Apple Care and Companion, selected my “Are You One Fire OR Are You Burning Out?” seminar. It is such an honor to be a part of the […]

Marriage & LifeStyle Design Help on My You Tube Channel

You Tube Channel One Year Anniversary: This week is a celebration: Currently I have had over ten thousand views on my You Tube Channel since Jack posted my 64 videos one year ago. We decided to let it be viral – we didn’t say anything, just put the videos up. So, now, a year later, […]

Kisses – for My Valentine

For my Beloved and my husband, Jack. This is so tender and personal. But, today, of all the days of the year, we speak of the love which makes us lose our shyness and find the temerity to speak truth. And, so, in the name of Designer Marriage which was birthed by ours: