Enneagram Workshop III ~ Relationships Part 2

Using the Enneagram to Understand and Refine Relationships

with Heather Carlile, MA, LPC-S

Friday, November 15, from 1:00 to 4:00 PM

3CEU’s ~ $75 or $65 by November 13

Training Room, 801 E. Campbell Road, Richardson, TX 75081

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WORKSHOP: This is not a class, it is a workshop.

MY MAGIC WAND: “When I use the Enneagram with a couple, it’s almost like waving a magic wand over a marriage. And, it works with their kids and co-workers, too.”
-Heather Carlile

You mean that’s just who you are? You’re not doing that to annoy me?

BENEFITS: The Enneagram is the most comprehensive theory of personality. It reveals clearly and in detail how different people view the world.

ENJOY RATHER THAN RESIST DIFFERENCES: Learning about the Enneatypes gives us the ability to honor and enjoy personal differences and to sustain personal and business relationships with family, friends, clients and coworkers. The Enneagram helps remove blocks to success and reach full potential both for personal purpose and in relationships with others.

ENNEATYPES TAKE THE GUESS WORK OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS: Each personal paradigm or Enneagram personality has dramatically different ways of thinking, feeling, defending, and taking action. The styles are logical and easily understood with the introductory information. This personality is a result of adaptive skills created in direct response to how we perceived our environment and our parenting adults in childhood. The instrument has been thoroughly normed through research via authoritative psychological instruments.

1. Observe and develop insight about the Enneatype patterns via the self-scored RHETI instrument.
2. Learn and accept needs and differences in relationships.
3. Know the Motivators and Disruptors Inherent in the Triads: 1) Fear Types, 2) Self-Doubt Types and 3) Control Types.
4. Increase understanding of other styles, avoid judgement with acceptance.
5. The Nine Types Create 45 Possible Dynamics in Relationships.
6. Instinctual Variances Stacking.
7. 27 Tritype Dynamics.
8. Identify, predict, minimize and resolve potential conflicts with others.
9. Taking Relationships to the Next Level.

DEFAULT IDENTITY: I call the Enneatype ‘the Default Archetypal Role.’ I see it metaphorically as the ‘hat’ we put on when we get out of bed in the morning and we may assume that it defines who we are…our identity. And, we are more than the Enneatype even though it is our default, a signpost to our major gifts and direction for spiritual growth. -Heather Carlile

CLASS PREP: How to Get Your Enneagram

SELF-SCORING INSTRUMENT: Determine your Enneatype by completing the questionnaire online. Go to enneagraminstitute.com

RELAXED STATE: The fee is $12. Answer the 144 questions on the RHETI Riso Hudson Type Indicator to determine how much of each of the nine types defines your basic personality style. Relax with the questions which may both be like you or neither one is like you. Just make your best choice. Keep in mind your authentic relaxed self as you answer the questions (not how you are at work or with others in an adaptive state).

YOUR SCORES & REVIEW: You can forward your report or scores (nine numbers) via email to Heather at heather@heathercarlile.com or bring them with you to class for your own Mastery Maps. And, it will help if you review the Nine Personality Types including The Gifts and the Shadows, the direction of Integration and Disintegration.


The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson.

The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships by Helen Palmer.

The 45 Combinations of Relating, Collaborating and Connecting: How Each Pairing Can Disintegrate or Thrive! by David Daniels, MD. eBook.

The 9 Ways of Working: How to Use the Enneagram to Discover Your Natural Strengths and Work More Effectively by Michael J. Goldberg.

For more info call Heather at 214-636-5889

One Comment

  1. Here’s the feedback from this workshop. As a result, my next two workshops are on using the Enneagram for couples and relationships.

    Comments from 9/20/19

    What I liked best about the program is:
    Terrific content and expert presenter.
    Helping each person understand her Type – so we all learned the questions to ask and the clues to look for.
    Heather teaches foundation through illustration and real life present examples.
    The importance of “The Childhood Origins.”
    …..need…to nurturing and protective roles.
    Learning my number.
    Great info and interactive workshop.
    “Workshop” interactive application learning.
    The wisdom and knowledge and clarity of the presenter.
    Clear and illustrative.
    Information clarification.

    I changed or benefited in this way:
    I finally got clarity about my Type.
    I better understand Type and the Enneagram and myself.
    Learned more to help clients decipher results from test.
    More understanding and help with identifying Enneagram Type.
    Deeper understanding of the complexities.
    Clear understanding.
    More aware of screening.
    I found my true Type and learned so much more about the Enneagram.
    Viewing the Enneagram as a beneficial tool in practice.

    I’d like more of:
    Learning more about finding the Type.
    Time to learn.
    Heather’s personal teaching graph — the “Enneagram Triad” chart.
    Descriptions on the Types. How it manifests in couples.
    All of it! I could learn more from you everyday, Heather!
    Time to help Type.
    Examples, case study.
    More information.

    Other topics I’d like to hear from Heather:
    Stress – safety – integration and subtypes.
    Whatever you are teaching!
    Specific relational work with the Enneagram.
    Approaches in counseling each number.
    Couples Enneagram.

    Next natural topic – Deepening the knowledge/topics covered today.
    More in depth use for couples.
    All of the things…
    All ways to apply in counseling.

    See October 18 and November 15, 2019

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