ReBuilding Trust after Infidelity

Here is the most recent request I’ve received. So many people are suffering after experiencing a loss of trust. Of all my talks on You Tube, about one-third of the views are on my re-building trust video.

Dear Heather,

I desperately need help. I came through your videos on youtube and was moved with your words. 

I need your handouts about Forgiveness and Rebuilding Trust. How can I have them?



The Five Steps to Forgiveness

Forgiveness Model

Forgiveness Guide Book

Forgiveness Guide Book


Mentoring a Generation by Heather Carlile, MA, LPC


1. Mentoring a Generation for Marriage

Deep Friendship

Romantic Intimacy

2. Mentoring a Generation for Parenting

Identify the OuchRage: Counterwill and Crisis

Commitment to Meaning

2. Mentoring a Generation for Healing

Understand the Addiction: Love, Lack, Lifestyle

Heal the Wounds: Connect, Grieve, Stop the Trauma

2017 is my year for sharing the results from my career of writing, mentoring and healing.

Today, I announce the seven categories of my works. Through the weeks and years in private practice and in teaching my colleagues, I’ve produced materials for homework and for education. Last year I shared the substance of my methods for working with couples in a workshop with my colleagues. That really is the beginning for goodness. I am convinced that home, deep friendship and adult intimate bonds are the foundation for good in the world.

  1. Couples & Relationships
  2. Parenting & Mentoring
  3. Anger, Grief, Trauma, Addiction
  4. Psychology, Emotions, Personality
  5. ReWriting Your Future
  6. Virtue & Spirituality
  7. New Nutrition
Mentoring a Generation

Mentoring a Generation

Designer Marriage – Mentoring Couples Who Care

Heather and Jack

Heather and Jack

Couples Communication

The first exercises I give couples are these on communication. These self-assessments always help us notice what we are missing.

Table of Contents

Part Two: Communication

    1. Men and Women Really are from Different Planets 7
    2. Bunny Ya’But and Rabbit Ya’But 8
    3. Listening Self-Assessment Quiz 10
    4. Expert Speaking Abilities Quiz 14
    5. Common Sense Communication 18
    6. Format for Good Communication about Problems 19
    7. complaint with a request for change 19

Includes 10 hours of Video at