Part II. Hunger for the Light

Hunger for the Light

What quickens the hunger for the light again?
The recipe for love of life has many myriad layers:
When Earth becomes home and Nature awakens awe.
Our peoples connect cognition with caring.
Respect for all life lies at the foundation of belief…

…when suffering is unnatural and reverence overrides ignorance,
when all creatures and peoples are fascinating not frustrating.
when woman and man and child and animal and land co-create,
explore, learn, design, produce and preserve good,
when they garden their planet.

Matured minds see the dimensions of color…with expanded sensing
that goes beyond the child’s need for right and wrong…
seeing subtleties with wise eyes that believe in finding a way through.
They teach hope through ideas on how we may reclaim,
and possess, sometimes for the first time, some sort of strength or loveliness that will not fail us.

Good can prevail if it is not dirtied by abandonment.
But, denigrate a woman — and her greatest labor is killed.
Her love is replaced with a half-death; good is abandoned.
Her children are neglected and have little of life.
The family is a farce and the suffering starts.

Good can prevail if it is not dirtied by poverty.
But, ignore a man and his building power is destroyed.
His drive is replaced with self-pity; good is abandoned.
His work is ill-defined and offers little to life.
The family receives his impotent rage and the suffering starts.

A woman kept safe and nourished in her home.
Her man protecting and his work providing.
They make heir marriage intimate best friends.
Babies and youths laughing and learning.
Families for fun and fostering at home and with neighbors.

A man empowered with the bravery for respectful honesty.
His woman smiling and partnering at his side.
They make their marriage intimate best friends.
Leading his young into adventure and mastery.
Showing the zest and humor which elevate his service.

Neighborhoods combine for cooperation and building.
The tribes share cooking, talking and walking.
Learning is held as life’s common language for young and old.
Lands are cultivated for food and fruit and flowers.
Vibrant cities bustle with productivity providing abundant supplies.

Such goodnesses bely black and white by their infinite hues:
Fear foments failure vs forgiveness when minimizing a friend’s fault.
Fathers and mothers tend to tykes and teens in the ultimate travail.
Buddies debate causes and bear differences and foibles.
Partners correct course as one and extend progress because they are united.

There’s no need to seek the hunger for the light
when the family is a caring system and
when good cheer and purpose suffuse daily routine.
Because adults continue to parent children at all ages
Motivating and teaching each step of the way to maturity.

Trauma…when counter-will is relentless and
when defensive rage explodes or implodes,
we know that desecration of the good has been perpetrated
and harm beyond bearing has been done.

In the traumatized there is no willingness until the wound is healed,
the violation is resolved, the terror is quieted or
the damage is acknowledged by restitution and a return to respect.
Only then, can the suffering stop
so that humanity may return to the light of sympathy and civility.

by Heather Carlile
Dallas, Texas July 2016

Next: Part III. Making Sacred the Cycle

Part I. We Lost Our Way – Poetry that Came this Week

We Lost Our Way
The suffering came on slowly,
Imperceptibly to most.
Siblings squabbling.
Tribes at war.
Until every continent was dirty.

The dirtiness began with what was named clean.
Hidden in the selfishness of “This is ours, not yours.”
“This is our way, not yours,” names “yours” wrong.
If something is named clean, all else is dirty.
Death becomes dirty so life becomes dirty.

Death becomes degradation.
Dying from killing.
The wars of good and bad.
So began the struggle to make it our way…all clean.
To find the white and clean up the black.

Such filters divide friends, neighborhoods and countries.
Generosity, understanding, neighborliness and helpfulness narrow to “our way.”
Selfishness, arrogance, bullying, depersonalize.
So it’s “our way” to make “your way” wrong.
And, the descent into hunting down the black begins.

But the black is necessary for the stars to twinkle.
Moonlight glitters on water when the sun shines elsewhere.
The dark makes the fire a soft and warm blessing.
When the sun sinks below the horizon we sleep.
The night makes the dawn blazon at sunrise.

Deep in the dirt, dark makes moist the sprouting seed.
And, rest is best at night.
The nocturnal ones seek and find.
Couples renew and unite after dark.
Contemplation comes with eyes closing out the light.

As in all things, we may mold any of it for the beauty of life and death.
But we lost our way.
Today, so many hold the devotion to dark.
Dark without the light of life.
For so much has invoked hope only to turn and bite.

Some relent and release life. Death becomes escape.
Dedication to the dark from the passion of disgust.
Skewed so far off the journey by betrayal.
Hate fouling self and other.
Beaten and bereft. Why stay alive?

Fear foments failure. 
Some survive and seek and still suffer.
They refuse that there is any hope in sight.
Their myopia makes them less than alive–just existing.
Like creatures: devolving. 

We lost our way. Silent suffering tires our people.
Homes hide secret troubles of depression, demoralization and rage.
Angry and hurting, some lash out the venomous heritage of harm. 
Intimates are now fighting until every school and community is dirty.
When birth is marked by neglect and injury.

by Heather Carlile
Dallas, Texas July 2016

Jack and I spent days in Vail, CO with remarkable friends which opened my heart and soul with gratitude. Then, I was deeply moved by the brilliant artistry of Augustin Hadelich (a magnificent musician who is maimed for life by being burned in a fire) playing Bruch’s Violin Concerto No. 1. Next, profoundly moved to weeping by the Dallas Symphony Orchestra performing Shostakovich’s Symphony No. 7 written after 632,000 people died of hunger in WWII. And, in agony, I watched the extreme fight to stay alive in “The Life of Pi.” Then, three days ago, the night we landed back in DFW, five police officers were killed and seven injured here. I was so safe, inspired and loved and, yet, so disturbed by these tragedies, that this sequence of poetry came. I am driven to use my words for truth and for good.

This is part of my work on my book, “OuchRage: Unresolved Grief and Trauma in Children and Adults.”

Next, Part II: Hunger for the Light

Relationship and Marriage Success Class

Designer Marriage Handbook

Designer Marriage Handbook

2016 CEU Classes – Every 3rd Friday starting in June

with Heather Carlile

THREE Credit Hours for LPC and LMFT $60

($70 at the door)

Friday, June 17, 2016 from 1:30 PM to 4:30 PM.

TEACHING WHAT I SEE AND DO: This year my goal is to share my best with you and my colleagues. I’ve been asked by my peers and my clients to reach more people with the methods I use. In our profession, each of us accumulates experience over the years. Every client is a new puzzle and evokes different skills in us to move through the labyrinth of healing towards health. It is my hope that I can help you see with more clarity, communicate successfully and counsel with more confidence. I am ready to share what I see and what I do.

HOW TO USE THE METHODS: I’ll share my best tools and I’ll show you how I use them. We create a private practice experience with each class. You can observe and question my work to understand how I think about the puzzle and how I strategize my approaches. And, the class will benefit by what you bring to the conversation.

FREEDOM TO USE MY MATERIALS: The workshop includes handouts and a link to online Premium Content such as my slides, videos, study guides and audio tracks along with my permission to use them yourself and/or for your clients.

Starbucks Coffee Served.

Heather Carlile has been assigned these CEU Provider Numbers for the State of Texas:

LPC CEU Provider #1448

Effective 08/31/07 to present

LMFT CEU Provider #255

Effective 09/12/07 to present