Gift Getaway for Well Women

International Women’s Day Women Are: Healthy – They are Well in Body, Mind & Heart. Caring – They Bring Water to Thirsty Souls. Strong – They Carry Stories of Suffering & Sunshine. Deep – They Share Wisdom from their Bottomless Well. Clear – They Preserve Beauty, Order & Truth. The Gift Getaway website is live! […]

Partnership: Family is First

PARTNERSHIP On this, the eve of International woman’s Day, I share the poem which came pouring out over the last three days. It’s my civil and thoughtful little rant. I hope you will comment!     A woman’s equipped with masculine modes. She’s happy at work and happy at home. Her dream’s to have kids. […]

Pulling Out the Threads of War: Smiling Makes Sadness Small

Pulling Out the Threads of War ~ Smiling Makes Sadness Small (Using the poetic voice to speak of the unspeakable.) Even while hell burns and seethes in the eyes  of the boney death mask of rebellion and fosters evil, Some maintain the devotion to service. From where did these pervasive perversions propagate?  Quiet atrocities, invisible […]

Gift Getaway Retreats

Experience the 21 Roles which Reveal the Depths of Femininity  Looking back, the puzzle pieces started appearing for me very young. Starting in my teens, I was sensitive to anything I could learn about being a good woman. I remember Mom teaching me the way to iron your husband’s shirts. I was very interested and […]

Violence? No Tolerance.

Domestic Violence Destroys Homes and Families. Domestic or Intimate Partner Violence kills the foundation of good. I want to do whatever I can to stop such stupidity, ignorance and evil. This is another symptom of our twisted times and why I’m at work on Mentoring a Generation. I have curated some of the best-informed voices […]

ReBuilding Trust after Infidelity

Here is the most recent request I’ve received. So many people are suffering after experiencing a loss of trust. Of all my talks on You Tube, about one-third of the views are on my re-building trust video. Dear Heather, I desperately need help. I came through your videos on youtube and was moved with your […]


Mentoring a Generation by Heather Carlile, MA, LPC MENTORING MODULES 1. Mentoring a Generation for Marriage Deep Friendship Romantic Intimacy 2. Mentoring a Generation for Parenting Identify the OuchRage: Counterwill and Crisis Commitment to Meaning 2. Mentoring a Generation for Healing Understand the Addiction: Love, Lack, Lifestyle Heal the Wounds: Connect, Grieve, Stop the Trauma […]

Designer Marriage – Mentoring Couples Who Care

Couples Communication The first exercises I give couples are these on communication. These self-assessments always help us notice what we are missing. Table of Contents Part Two: Communication Men and Women Really are from Different Planets 7 Bunny Ya’But and Rabbit Ya’But 8 Listening Self-Assessment Quiz 10 Expert Speaking Abilities Quiz 14 Common Sense Communication 18 […]

Part III. Making Sacred the Cycle

Making Sacred the Cycle Nature’s grand patterns follow the sacred cycle. The movement of breath: In, suspend, out. The waves tumble in. The foam pauses, motion held… And the water slides back into the ocean. The cycle of the seasons, heavens and generations Inspire wonder, anticipation and ritual recognizing that order. With watching millennia, decades […]

Part II. Hunger for the Light

Hunger for the Light What quickens the hunger for the light again? The recipe for love of life has many myriad layers: When Earth becomes home and Nature awakens awe. Our peoples connect cognition with caring. Respect for all life lies at the foundation of belief… …when suffering is unnatural and reverence overrides ignorance, when […]