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Heather Carlile, a certified LPC and LMFT Supervisor, whose private practice is in Richardson, TX, specializes in depth psychology and
marriage counseling. Her unique transpersonal philosophy, which she uses to relieve anxiety, depression, guilt, anger and grief, integrates archetypes and the Enneagram. She created and co-facilitates Designer Marriage with her husband, Dr. Jack Waldenmaier in classes and on the radio.
The rain is freezing on the patio tonight and I’m cozy inside with my husband and our two cats. I’m still in the glow of Thanksgiving. My gratitude for my life overflows in an endless list of goodness.
Currently, I am relishing the creative use of my mind and imagination through my diligence with Mark Bryan, Julia Cameron and Catherine Allens’ stunning book, “The Artist’s Way At Work: Riding the Dragon – Twelve Weeks to Creative Freedom.” It was published in 1998 and I have been working through all of the thinking and writing tasks since April 28, 2013. At last I am ready to do it justice. Rather than spending a week on a chapter, I have been taking all the time I need–works out to about a month on each chapter–to make sure I don’t miss a thing.
“Safety is what our censor gives us in a backhanded way. Our Censor is like a crossing guard who tries to march our thoughts in orderly rows “for our own good.”….Giving the Censor time off is a learned skill” is currently affirming and inspiring me.
This morning I didn’t have time to go to the gym so I took out my wonderful new white Schwinn bicycle and got in a couple of miles. Then I found a link to this report in The Huffington Post from a friend (thanks, Joy):
“Released Monday, the 2013 World Happiness Report ranks the happiest countries around the globe, with Denmark, Norway and Switzerland leading the pack. Among North American countries, Canada took sixth place, while Mexico (16) slightly outranked the U.S. (17).
The report is the second of its kind released by a coalition of researchers including John F. Helliwell of the University of British Columbia and Canadian Institute for Advanced Research, the London School of Economics’s Richard Layard and Jeffrey D. Sachs, director of Columbia University’s Earth Institute. The team drew upon Gallup World Poll data from the the past three years to rank the 156 countries on aspects such as healthy life expectancy, freedom to make life choices and social support.
Why was Denmark crowned the happiest country in the world?
“The top countries generally rank higher in all six of the key factors identified in the World Happiness Report,” wrote University of British Columbia economics professor John Helliwell, one of the report’s contributing authors. “Together, these six factors explain three quarters of differences in life evaluations across hundreds of countries and over the years.”
1. SUPPORT FOR PARENTS: While American women scrape by with an average maternal leave of 10.3 weeks, Danish families receive a total of 52 weeks of parental leave. Mothers are able to take 18 weeks and fathers receive their own dedicated 2 weeks at up to 100 percent salary. The rest of the paid time off is up to the family to use as they see fit.
But the support doesn’t stop at the end of this time. Danish children have access tofree or low-cost child care. And early childhood education is associated with health and well-being throughout life for its recipients – as well as for mothers. What’s more, this frees up young mothers to return to the work force if they’d like to. The result? In Denmark, 79 percent of mothers return to their previous level of employment, compared to 59 percent of American women. These resources mean that women contribute 34 to 38 percent of income in Danish households with children, compared to American women, who contribute 28 percent of income.
2. NATIONAL HEALTHCARE SYSTEM: “Danish citizens expect and receive health care as a basic right. But what’s more, they know how to effectively use their health systems. Danish people are in touch with their primary care physician an average of nearly seven times per year…”
3. GENDER EQUALITY: “As Katie J.M. Baker puts it in her exploration of gender politics in the Scandinavian country: “Unlike in America, where bestsellers goad already overworked and underpaid women to Lean In even further, the assumption in Denmark is that feminism is a collective goal, not an individual pursuit.” ”
4. BIKING IS THE NORM: Researchers found that for every kilometer traveled by bike instead of by car, taxpayers saved 7.8 cents (DKK 0.45) in avoided air pollution, accidents, congestion, noise and wear and tear on infrastructure. Cyclists in Copenhagen cover an estimated 1.2 million kilometers each day –- saving t
he city a little over $34 million each year. And, 30 minutes of daily biking adds an average of one to two years to the life expectancy.
5. POSITIVE ABOUT A HARSH CLIMATE: the Danes are masters of “hygge” – cultivated coziness.
6. RESPONSIBLE TO EACH OTHER: a value is placed on good citizenship; 40% contribute as volunteers to culture, sports, community organizations.
Current Research Concludes that:
“One of the most effective ways to turn the tide is to support the adults playing significant roles in the lives of adolescents, including, notably, their parents. Although it is true that peers, schools, communities, and other factors take on added significance as children become teenagers, research consistently shows that parents remain a powerful influence in fostering healthy teen development and preventing negative outcomes.
WORLD POPULATION DAY – JULY 11
from Kosmos Magazine:
“As the world population edged to 7 billion people in 2011 (up from 2.5 billion in 1950), it has had profound implications for development. A world of 7 billion is both a challenge and an opportunity with implications on sustainability, urbanization, access to health services and youth empowerment. On July 11, 2013 World Population Day, we raise awareness of the issue of adolescent pregnancy in the hopes of delivering a world where every pregnancy is wanted, every childbirth is safe, and every young person’s potential is fulfilled.”
ADULTHOOD STARTS AT 28-30 YEARS OLD: In my talk, “Keeping Our Teens On Track,” I share what I believe are the sources of and the solutions for stopping childbearing by our teenagers. When a child is born, that little one requires our full attention and nurturance. And, if the parents are still children themselves, then both the baby is deprived and the parents are deprived in certain ways. Research now shows that the first adulthood begins between 28 and 30 years of age.
ADOLESCENTS AND THEIR QUEST FOR IDENTITY: Our teenagers are developmentally…naturally…on a quest to grow personal identity. And, as a professional in the world of psychology, I was not satisfied that I could articulate cogently and quickly what that meant. What IS the definition of identity which satisfies my need to mentor people accurately? I didn’t find a way to teach about identity until I did some research and found several authoritative and thrilling sources.
MENTORING TEENS: I list the best of the best sources for making sure our youths fulfill their potential on a web page. If you have recommendations, I am always interested in more and better.
All the best,
OUR TRANSFORMATIONAL TIMES: I consider myself privileged to be alive in this generation. We are studying what doesn’t work and exploring how to significantly improve our cultures, societies and countries. As a Marriage Counselor, this is my relentless mission for relationships. In Geneva in June, the data gathered by our World Health Organization reported on “the first systematic review and synthesis of the body of scientific data on the prevalence” of violence against women.
NEED TO TEACH COUPLES: In my marriage and those of our friends, our men and women are not only safe with each other, they are loved. I’m firmly convinced that we know how to mentor men and women in creating healthy and respectful relationships. And the next task is to deliver that knowledge and teach those skills to those who are ready and willing.
WORLD HEALTH ASSEMBLY: “During the Sixty-sixth World Health Assembly in May 2013, seven governments – Belgium, India, Mexico, Netherlands, Norway, United States of America, and Zambia – declared violence against women and girls “a major global public health, gender equality and human rights challenge, touching every country and every part of society” and proposed the issue should appear on the agenda of the Sixty-seventh World Health Assembly.”
LINK: Go here for the full article: http://www.who.int/mediacentre/news/releases/2013/violence_against_women_20130620/en/index.html
YOU TUBE/HEATHER CARLILE: And, this is my first announcement about my You tube Channel: up to now, I have recorded 60 one-hour mentoring videos which Jack and I uploaded onto You Tube in March. I’m happy that I’ve received over 2,300 views organically. I hope this helps make better marriages and makes our women safe with our men.