Marriage Counseling Dallas TX / Richardson — Heather Carlile, MA, LPC

Heather Carlile, M.A., L.P.C.
Marriage Counseling - Dallas / Richardson

Relationships • Stress • Grief • Life Decisions

Marriage Counseling Dallas TX / Richardson - Heather Carlile, MA, LPC

Please help. My Hurt from Her Infidelity Gets in the Way

Marriage Counseling: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

Marriage Counseling: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

TWO YEARS ON YOU TUBE: (more…)

International Women’s Day

"The Dinner Party" by Judy Chicago

“The Dinner Party” by Judy Chicago

Judy Chicago was 75 last year. Her historical work, The Dinner Party, has inspired my reverence and my devotion to equality for men and women for over 20 years.
This year I took action. I researched more and now I have something forming in my goals about facilitating a women’s group aided by this monumental sculpture which is an embodiment of wisdom. Here is the description from the book jacket: “The Dinner Party is a symbolic history of women’s achievements and struggles told through 39 china painted plates and elaborately embroidered runners which cover a triangular table.” The table rests on tiles which have the names of 999 women written on them. 39 women have place settings at the table.
The closing poem made me weep today. It echoes my dedication to finding ways for men and women to love each other and create happy relationships and marriages. Then, together, we can tend to the young ones and the older ones and our community.

And then all that has divided us will merge
And then compassion will come to a world that is harsh and unkind
And then both women and men will be gentle
And then both women and men will be strong
And then no person will be subject to another’s will
And then all will be rich and free and varied
And then the greed of some will give way to the needs of many
And then all will share equally in the Earth’s abundance
And then all will care for the sick and the weak and the old
And then all will nourish the young
And then all will cherish life’s creatures
And then all will live in harmony with each other and the Earth
And then everywhere will be called Eden once again

In sincerity I share these sentiments from Judy Chicago in honor of her profound contribution to goodness and in honor of International Women’s Day.

Relationship Tips for Parents and Families

Counseling: Family Relationships

Counseling: Family Relationships

I created this presentation on Family Relationships in response to a special request I received via email. I’ll share it anonymously here because I was so honored by the interest in my work:

 Dear Ms. Carlile

 I am a Family Counseling, MA student and have seen almost all of your videos on YouTube.

 I have a seminar about “The Protocol for the Relationship of Partners with Their Family of Origin.”

 I am from Iran, the most prejudiced country of all times.

What I am asking for is a lecture by you (to record a video like the one you have on Youtube) on the topic of relationship protocols with the family of origin, so that I can use it as a reference for my seminar. I have asked you for help since you have quite an all-inclusive knowledge and experience on the topic of marriage and its dynamics.

I replied:

Thank you for the time you have spent watching my videos. I am interested in creating a video for your topic. Can you give me more details about it, please?

Dear Ms. Heather Carlile

Thank you so much for replying to the mail. I have a presentation for this semester about “Family of Origin Issues,” issues regarding both partners’ background and the influence it puts on their life. … I had references, but having seen your vids and the dexterity and fluency you practice during your lectures, and that is for sure the same with your therapy and dealing with couples issues too, it came to my mind to ask for a similar therapeutic protocol to be presented in the class and this way they meet their goal through a practical and applicable source of knowledge.

I wonder if I have explained what I meant clearly, please let me know.

Faithfully yours and many many thanks in advance for your help.

I am honored to help. And, now, I share the information with those of you who visit my website or my You Tube Channel. You can go to my web page for access to the supporting documents at this address:

http://heathercarlile.com/family-relationships/

I hope this is useful. If you have any comments or questions, I am, as always interested in hearing from you.

Happy Holidays,

Heather

 

Relationship Tune-Ups

Couples often return for a few sessions after time and events have changed things. For example:

  • after the first one-and-a-half years of passion
  • after a baby is born
  • after stressful changes or events have been resolved
  • after about a seven year cycle
  • after a move, a job change, an illness, etc.

I will hear from them; they ask for a ‘tune-up.’

One of the biggest changes is how we adapt internally. If we are sensitive to those subtle shifts in ourselves, they can add a bit of the novelty and arousal which keeps a relationship renewed. In a sense, we are more than we were before.

Sometimes the changes have deprived us of a dynamic which we relished and it may be lost for good. Like when we celebrate the arrival of a baby.

For example: Once a young executive came to see me because he was privately alarmed at how he was not feeling happy about his wife’s pregnancy and how they would soon be parents even though it was the fulfillment of a mutual goal.

They had a beautiful marriage and had been grateful for their years of intimacy, work and international travel together. They agreed that it was time for their first child. But, he hadn’t considered that he was losing the relationship and the lifestyle that had meant the world to him for many years.

So, he came to talk to me. And, as we worked to help him examine his losses and the stages of grief, it made sense to him. He left with the turmoil validated and healthy so he could work through the losses and be joyfully ready when his baby arrived.

I was able to mentor him how he couldn’t be happy yet because first he needed to grieve.

Sometimes a relationship update conversation with your counselor is a fast forward to even more confidence, gratitude and love.

Have you experienced one of those bumps in the road? It’s always great to hear from my readers or viewers.

 

Heather’s CEU Workshops

Heather's CEU Workshops

Heather’s CEU Workshops

Heather’s CEU Workshops*

Second Friday of Every Month

NEXT: Friday, July 11, 2014, 1:00 – 4:00 pm

Using the Enneagram to Help Solve Your Clients’ Problems

Pre-Register Online: $37
(or $47 at the door)

Location: Stoney Hollow Estates, Plano, TX
Call for Directions: 214-636-5889

*Followed by Optional Happy Hour $10
After the three-hour workshop, you are welcome to stay for refreshments and conversation.
I invite you to bring your business cards and brochures to share. I like to contribute to our community’s collaboration by fostering collegial connections.